Unconditional love, the only true love, begins within ourselves. When we can love ourselves unconditionally, we are then capable of giving unconditional love to others. Therefore, it’s so important to heal ourselves, so that our personal vibration rises and we are able to vibrationally attract and embody love.
Metta, or loving-kindness, is a Buddhist meditation of care, concern, tenderness, loving kindness, and friendship – a feeling of warmth for yourself and others. Its process softens and breaks down the barriers that you feel inwardly toward ourselves, and then toward others. Metta softens the mind and heart, opening you to deeper and deeper levels of the feeling of kindness and love.
Metta is unconditional, inclusive love, a love with wisdom. It has no conditions; it does not depend on whether one “deserves” it or not; it is not restricted to friends and family; it extends out from personal categories to include all living beings. There are no expectations of anything in return. This is the ideal, pure love, which everyone has in potential. We begin with loving ourselves, for unless we have a measure of this unconditional love and acceptance for ourselves, it is difficult to extend it to others. Then we include others who are special to us, and, ultimately, all living things. Gradually, both the visualization and the meditation phrases blend into the actual experience, the feeling of loving kindness. Source: Contemplative Mind
There are five stages of Metta:
Feeling Metta for yourself
Feeling Metta for a good friend
Feeling Metta for a person you have neutral feelings for
Feeling Metta for someone you really dislike
Feeling Metta in completeness, for all four of the previous simultaneously, and everyone across the world
All of life is energetically connected. When we heal ourselves, we are healing the world.